Last year, I wrote a blog post about how thankful I was (*and still am) for my brothers and sisters. How we rally together and stand strong and how they've shown me what family truly is. I was (*and still am) thankful for our relationships that could've easily been halved, but have instead flourished as full in the truest of ways.
This year, I am having a really hard time articulating what I'm grateful for, which actually sounds really freaking selfish. Obviously I have things to be grateful for, after all, Instagram sent me huge reminders of that all weekend long...
But reading that quote over and over and over again got me to thinking. What if there's not? What if the things I should be most thankful for are the things that I don't have. And so, here is my list. The first ever list of things I am thankful not to have this year:
I am thankful that I am not, in any way, disabled physically or mentally. I have been blessed with a healthy body, a strong immune system, and a sound mind. I have not combated a terminal illness. I have not been in fatal or life-threatening accident. I have been blessed when others have not, and I thank God for that.
I am thankful that I do not experience fear, anxiety, or insecurity when I think about where my next meal is coming from. I am lucky enough to have food on the table consistently, more than I need, and more than I deserve.
I am thankful that I do not have a doubt in my mind who has my back. When I am scared or hurt or saddened or ecstatic, I do not have a second thought about who to call. I do not wonder if my family will care, if my mom will attend to my question or call, or if my friends will be there when I need them.
I am thankful that I do not have you - you who pulled me down, who pulled me back, who held onto me too long without wanting me to stay. You who changed my life, who taught me to love, and who taught me to walk away when the time was right. You who let others opinions shape your life, my life, our lives together. You who still brings tears to my eyes, a lump to my throat, and rock to the empty pit of my stomach. While I would've loved to have had you, I am becoming thankful that I do not.
Because I am not yet who I hope to become, and I am thankful for that. I am thankful that I am not bound to who I was before now and that my growth is endless. I am becoming the ideal Me. The Me that doesn't need you. The Me that stands alone, happy.
What I am most thankful for, that I do have, is time. All of these things that I do and don't have are leading me on this journey to find myself, and I am grateful for the opportunity. So many others are not blessed with the chance to find themselves. I have that chance and I want to hold onto it as long as I can - so I'm thankful that I'm not there yet.
