So, after all this, do I feel any better? Surprisingly, yes I do. I am embarrassed, ashamed, hungover, guilt ridden, and definitely in need of some exercise. However, I've realized that acting out reminded me who I really am. I am not the person I acted like this weekend; if I was, I wouldn't feel shame or embarrassment. I let myself lose control of my emotions, of my values, and of my inhibitions. I am definitely not proud of that, but I needed this weekend to remind myself that I am always in control and responsible for myself.
In relationships, from what I have learned, the power lies with the person who cares less. At some point in my last relationship, I let the balance tip. I loved deeper - cared more - and I gave him control. I tried to want what he wanted, do what he wanted, and act in the way he wanted. Every move I made was with him in mind. I relinquished control.
Over the past five weeks, I have done little to regain control and responsibility. I made excuses for my melodramatic responses to small infractions, my oversensitivity to the criticism of others, and my short temper in the face of controversy. "I'm going through a tough breakup," I'd think, "it's not my fault." And everyday, I wish things were different. Sometimes I wish we were still together. Sometimes I wish we had never met. Sometimes I wish that he wasn't in the same state as me, at the same school as me, or at the same party as me. I don't have control over any of those things, but what I can control are my actions and the way I treat others. Over the past five weeks I lost sight of the fact that there is never an excuse to knowingly do the wrong thing. My mother taught me to know right from wrong, to respect others, and to carry myself with dignity. This weekend I exemplified zero of the things my mother taught me, and there is no excuse for that - not even a broken heart.
I genuinely believe that this past weekend was actually an experience I needed to have. I am finding myself, rebuilding my life, recreating my outlook, and mending my heart, and sometimes the only way to do that is to start from rock bottom and work your way up.
**inspired by "Beauty in a Breakdown" firstworldthoughts.blogspot.com
In relationships, from what I have learned, the power lies with the person who cares less. At some point in my last relationship, I let the balance tip. I loved deeper - cared more - and I gave him control. I tried to want what he wanted, do what he wanted, and act in the way he wanted. Every move I made was with him in mind. I relinquished control.
Over the past five weeks, I have done little to regain control and responsibility. I made excuses for my melodramatic responses to small infractions, my oversensitivity to the criticism of others, and my short temper in the face of controversy. "I'm going through a tough breakup," I'd think, "it's not my fault." And everyday, I wish things were different. Sometimes I wish we were still together. Sometimes I wish we had never met. Sometimes I wish that he wasn't in the same state as me, at the same school as me, or at the same party as me. I don't have control over any of those things, but what I can control are my actions and the way I treat others. Over the past five weeks I lost sight of the fact that there is never an excuse to knowingly do the wrong thing. My mother taught me to know right from wrong, to respect others, and to carry myself with dignity. This weekend I exemplified zero of the things my mother taught me, and there is no excuse for that - not even a broken heart.
I genuinely believe that this past weekend was actually an experience I needed to have. I am finding myself, rebuilding my life, recreating my outlook, and mending my heart, and sometimes the only way to do that is to start from rock bottom and work your way up.
**inspired by "Beauty in a Breakdown" firstworldthoughts.blogspot.com
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